I used to be fat, problem solved
I used to be fat, problem solved.
Did I get your attention? Yes I used to be a fat man. This is not the case anymore, problem solved once and for all. Everybody wants to know how I did it. In my case it’s not as much how I lost the fat that is relevant but how I solved the problem. But for those who insist, here is how I did not lose the fat;
- I did not go on a diet.
- I did not join a weight loss group or community.
- I did not follow a specific exercise program.
- I did not get a personal coach.
- I did not undergo surgery.
- I was not kidnapped by the aliens.
After an incalculable amount of failed attempts to lose weight over the past 35 years, I took a step back to try to understand what was going on. One of my first observations was that thin people seemed to have no trouble remaining thin while fat people seemed to have no trouble remaining fat. Even worse, fat people seemed to be getting fatter every time they made an attempt to get thinner. I meditated on this for a long time and came up with a theroy; The door shutter theory.
If you push on a door that is equipped with an automatic door shutter, the door will open. It will remain open as long as you apply more pressure than the resistance capacity of the shutter. If you let go the door, it will revert back to its default mode, which is shut. Could it be that we humans have a mechanism that resembles a door shutter constantly bringing us back to our default mode? If so, where did it come from? How was it implemented? Can it be removed or re-programmed?
Could it be that when we go on a diet, we are merely pushing a door that will revert back to its original position as soon as our attention is diverted? Could it be that by pushing too hard on the door it will swing back harder and damage the frame? Of course we can always put a stick in the door do keep it opened but the resistance is still there, ready to shut the door if we are not devoting part of our energy to keeping an eye on the stick.
In reality, a mechanical part screwed to a door frame is nothing compared to the mechanism that forces humans to behave one way or another. The psychological phenomenon that determines our default mode is far more complex. We cannot simply remove or adjust it because it is part of who we are, what we are and how we see ourselves. It is forged by our beliefs, our interpretation and perception of ourselves, others and the world around us.
Reprogramming that mechanism is a task that requires us to reconsider what things mean to us and what level of importance we attach to them. For example, some people might consider missing a bus to be the end of the world and others will simply wait for the next one without even raising an eyebrow. In the same manner, some people will consider a doughnut to be something to die for while others won’t pay any attention to it. The doughnut looks and tastes the same for everybody but is perceived very differently by each individual.
In my case, after torturing myself trying to avoid doughnuts for 35 years, I began to question myself about what a doughnut really means to me. Why was it the center of my attention and what else might be more interesting? Asking myself questions was the beginning of a whole new way to look at the world. I began to doubt what I believed was unchangeable. My perspective opened up so I could now see so many interesting and beautiful aspects of everything around me that had always been there but I had been too focused on the doughnut to even notice them.
The next time you get caught up by the doughnuts of life, ask yourself this; What else might I have missed that could be more interesting, beautiful and uplifting. You will be surprised at how many wonders would like to grab your attention if you let them. It could even be a person sitting in front of you trying to say something you aren’t even listening to. It could be your spouse, your children, your pet or a bird in a tree. Which is more important?
Ok now you can have the doughnut but I will bet you that after asking yourself questions, it won’t taste the same.
Written by Claude Viens
Author; The most powerful weight loss device ever made; The human brain.